Life is a rollercoaster ride, there's fun... and there's sadness. Life is not just black and white. There's always ups and downs. Some just wants to give up because of what they have went through. Some are just taking life as a joke. Some are patiently waiting for miracle to happen. Some risk their lifes in the name of love...

How can we make our life worthy?

For me, i have one simple wish... To have my own happy family. Sinong ayaw ng ganitong buhay. Lahat tayo ang may pangarap. But we couldn't set aside the problems that exists within our lives. Kambal na yan ng buhay. Money, parents, lovers, marital problems, siblings, friends, works, lahat sila, pwedeng maapektuhan. Ang babaw no? But we can still achieve our dreams basta focus lang tayo at siympre meron tayong mgae katangian na ganito.

It's called patience, sacrifices, understanding, working hard... and have faith. Do not let your anger take control. And always have an open mind. Every problems has its solution. Every questions has its answers. There's always reasons behind everything. And always remember that...

"Theres always a rainbow after the rains."

Why do we have to passed through all these problems? This is just a test that we have to go through, To know who we are. To learned and become a stronger person. Sometimes we give up everything just for the sake of money. Poverty is what makes people more inclined to do evil doings. Unfortunate ones are more blessed. But it's sad to say how money had made them an easy victim to do devils work. Sa hirap ng buhay, lahat gagawin mo makuha mo lang gusto mo...

Money is a necessity, a major factor of problems caused by poverty. Most people thought money is everything. It does not. It feeds evilness. We should make our life more worthy in God's love. Well some would find this as a funny statement, from those who does not believe that God indeed existed. I have been brought up by a catholic parents. I have been taught about God's LOVE. I guess I am more fortunate. I have this blind faith. I respect others opinion and views in life. Our upbringing are different and thus why everyone has different points of view. But I do feel sad to the people who do not believe in HIM. Some non-believers asked, why do you believe in God? Have you seen Him? I just smiled and said, "I do not need to see God to believe. HE is in my heart already. Wherever I goes I know HE is with me." I know these, because I have been through a terrible past, and in HIM i found peace. In HIM i have found my way home.

What about you? What is God in your life? How do you served him?

I do not claimed myself righteous. Nor I am religious. I skip masses sometimes. I am just imparting a words of wisdom to help those lost soul, in these way, maybe I could get some sense in them and at the same time... I could served GOD.

I hope I could be used by GOD, as HIS instrument...in touching other people's lives, and help those in needs. I have a long journey to take... If God's will, my life shall be as long as HE needs me. I hope if I ever leave this earth...... I could make a thousands people happy.

Looking for sympathy

When you first met your ex boyfriend or girlfriend, do you think they were attracted to you because you were depressed? Did you strive to be unhappy around them? Did they respect you because of your self pity and broken spirit?

It's unlikely because these are not the qualities or behaviors that people find attractive in a potential girlfriend or boyfriend.

We find the exact opposite attractive... strong, upbeat, friendly, and motivated people are one's that we want to be with in a romantic relationship.

But, in an anguished post break up mental state, we somehow convince ourselves that if we can make our ex feel sorry enough for us they will want to get back together. So, we may act sullen and depressed... wallowing (as dramatically as possible) in our self pity. Or, we may act out - getting very upset and behaving in ways we normally wouldn't (often doing stupid things we regret later) - hoping that our ex will realize just how much pain the break up is causing us and how hard it is for us to live without them.

Basically, we do the opposite of what brought us together with our girlfriend or boyfriend in the first place! While we should be making ourselves more attractive, instead, we pour all our energy into making ourselves unattractive.

If you take a step back and look at what is really happening, it's easy to see that this isn't at all logical or productive. Not only do these self-destructive acts negatively impact your life, it hurts your chances of ever getting them back. The more ridiculous you act, the more sure they become they made the right decision by leaving you.

We turn to desperate and counter productive approaches like this when we feel we have no solid plan, viable alternatives, or available options.

For those who are willing to set their self pity aside there is a better way of getting back an ex. Refuse to sink into negative feelings and behaviors. Depression and self pity aren't helping you get back with your ex, achieve your goals, or create the life you want.


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"But I Love You So Much"

After a break up, many people will try to repair the relationship by repeatedly telling their ex how much they love them:

"We can't break up... I love you!"

"If you knew how much I loved you, you wouldn't leave."

"I love you. If you leave me I'll be miserable."

Perhaps because of messages we get from society, some of us are under the impression that "love conquers all" so our love should be enough to save our relationship. The unfortunate fact is that loving relationships often don't work. Your love for your ex, in itself, is not enough to bring you back together.

For the relationship to have a chance your ex needs to love you too. But even that isn't enough - they need to love you the right way. To keep things simple I'll generalize love into two categories:

There is "I-care-about-you" love. This is the platonic love you may feel for a close friend or a family member. This love may involve such feelings as sympathy or pity and it is not romantic, sexual, or involve any kind of attraction. A couple who has only this type of love for each other is probably on the verge of a break up or settling for security reasons.

Then there is "I-need-to-be-with-you" love. This love involves attraction, desire, and excitement. This is the romantic, passionate love that brings people together, keeps them together, and brings them back together after a breakup. When two people have this type of love for each other they are willing to work on the relationship instead of leaving it.

And herein lies the solution and the challenge... rekindling "I-need-to-be-with-you" love in your ex. It's extremely difficult because you can't force your ex to have these feelings for you. In fact, the harder you try to force it, the less likely they are to feel this way (this is what I call the paradox of attraction)! Your role in recreating this feeling in your ex has to be more indirect.

That isn't to say that you have no control. In many ways your ex is only reacting to you. You can influence how they react by controlling how you present yourself and what you say.

There are very specific things that you can do to improve your chances of getting back your ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend. Repeatedly telling your ex that you love them is definitely not one of them.


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